Regarding nursing homes . . my husband had dementia and we had to finally put him in a memory care facility. We searched, visited several, and picked the one that seemed to offer the best for him - at least the cost was most expensive. It still breaks my heart to think of the experience. It was during the COVID lock down, we could visit rarely, and each time we did he had gone down hill. He got COVID there, they sent him to the hospital without informing me first - and he died of COVID. I still wanted to be involved in his life and in the decisions about him ( I had power of attorney and health care directives in place), promises were made but not kept. We couldn't keep him home, he wouldn't allow in care help, and the facility wasn't a good option either - in essence it killed him.
Regarding nursing homes . . my husband had dementia and we had to finally put him in a memory care facility. We searched, visited several, and picked the one that seemed to offer the best for him - at least the cost was most expensive. It still breaks my heart to think of the experience. It was during the COVID lock down, we could visit rarely, and each time we did he had gone down hill. He got COVID there, they sent him to the hospital without informing me first - and he died of COVID. I still wanted to be involved in his life and in the decisions about him ( I had power of attorney and health care directives in place), promises were made but not kept. We couldn't keep him home, he wouldn't allow in care help, and the facility wasn't a good option either - in essence it killed him.
I'm sorry to hear about that awful experience. Even more unfortunately, it does not seem to be uncommon.
Agreed